tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post884463924130979734..comments2024-01-15T12:17:49.418+02:00Comments on Midlife Singlemum: Lost SoulsRachel Selbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-37917465559665934812012-10-27T16:26:24.500+02:002012-10-27T16:26:24.500+02:00Thank you Liska xxThank you Liska xxRachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-80120440921241798012012-10-27T16:22:38.243+02:002012-10-27T16:22:38.243+02:00I never knew this about you. Oh my darling I am s...I never knew this about you. Oh my darling I am so very sorry and will give a moment to pay some respect to your girls. And their souls.<br />Lots of love,<br />Liska xxNew Mum Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-19917163537582272672012-10-19T17:44:23.646+02:002012-10-19T17:44:23.646+02:00Thanks Susan. xThanks Susan. xRachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-39258963252603887652012-10-19T13:44:56.859+02:002012-10-19T13:44:56.859+02:00A poignant piece. Hugs xA poignant piece. Hugs xSusan Mannhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09445232725431784781noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-50998572290871838802012-10-18T21:50:04.496+02:002012-10-18T21:50:04.496+02:00My friend had a still birth and it was very differ...My friend had a still birth and it was very different from my miscarriage at five months. When you give birth to a baby who is expected to live and doesn't that must be devastating. At five months pregnant I hadn't yet made any arrangements or allowed myself to get excited about having the babies at home. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-54076219344023928502012-10-18T21:27:58.738+02:002012-10-18T21:27:58.738+02:00I guess not everyone feels the same about an infan...I guess not everyone feels the same about an infant death. Our daughter died 30 years ago after living only 5 hours and it still affects us to this day. I'm glad you could move on. But still, you lit a candle? We moved on, but I do keep an urn on a shelf in the living room as a permanent reminder- as if I needed one.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-59862322588655145742012-10-18T19:12:46.962+02:002012-10-18T19:12:46.962+02:00Thank you for your comment Isadora. I'm readin...Thank you for your comment Isadora. I'm reading all the entries through the Linky. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-33199470968760554552012-10-18T19:07:10.237+02:002012-10-18T19:07:10.237+02:00his was a powerful read. A dramatically painful ex...his was a powerful read. A dramatically painful experience. You borught tose feelings to life with your words. <br />Lovely,<br />Isadora<br />hope you'll stop by to read my entry - Mr. Linky is being very bad to me -<br />http://insidethemindofisadora.wordpress.com/2012/10/18/100-word-challenge-my-nightmare/Isadorahttp://insidethemindofisadora.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-82987236538782409542012-10-18T18:52:02.282+02:002012-10-18T18:52:02.282+02:00If you think about it, there's never a good or...If you think about it, there's never a good or appropriate time to tell anyone unless they knew you were pregnant and then weren't. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-76482289673804082502012-10-18T12:29:48.698+02:002012-10-18T12:29:48.698+02:00Beautiful words. October 15th was definitely an ey...Beautiful words. October 15th was definitely an eye opener - miscarriage is still almost a taboo topic in many places so it's easy to forget how often people have to go though it.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-79091883042185675132012-10-18T09:08:20.653+02:002012-10-18T09:08:20.653+02:00I agree, when you are trying to get pregnant a che...I agree, when you are trying to get pregnant a chemical pregnancy is a significant achievment.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-66681301087869845192012-10-18T08:43:29.859+02:002012-10-18T08:43:29.859+02:00So sad to read, but such bravery in saying it. Th...So sad to read, but such bravery in saying it. The mention of chemical pregnancies too...so important for some of us.<br /><br />I also really liked the way you changed the emphasis of the prompt. xSarah Mileshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04653120797013525958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-18306684625699185252012-10-17T10:37:57.670+02:002012-10-17T10:37:57.670+02:00A valid point Miriam. You are right, of course, th...A valid point Miriam. You are right, of course, there is a choice not to speak about it. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-44510232648854504632012-10-17T10:13:45.333+02:002012-10-17T10:13:45.333+02:00A very poignant piece. We all have our own ways of...A very poignant piece. We all have our own ways of dealing with it. I think keeping quiet might have been the best way for me.Miriamhttp://andewallscametumblindown.wordpress.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-80398969920866627662012-10-16T23:44:29.269+02:002012-10-16T23:44:29.269+02:00I've written about a lot of it here and you ca...I've written about a lot of it here and you can read the posts by clicking on the tab - IVF - at the top. I'm still only half way through the story. Thank you cor your comments and yes, I was very lucky to have a happy ending. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-34883313763711095542012-10-16T23:30:21.111+02:002012-10-16T23:30:21.111+02:00So sorry to hear about your twin girls. A lot of ...So sorry to hear about your twin girls. A lot of people still don;t talk about their miscarriages so there are even more people than we think. I would love to hear the rest of your IVF journey. So glad that it had a happy ending. :)Libbynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-35797031814019410092012-10-16T19:32:20.870+02:002012-10-16T19:32:20.870+02:00Thanks OM. xThanks OM. xRachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-89095129630930931912012-10-16T11:38:25.998+02:002012-10-16T11:38:25.998+02:00I can't remember how many times I just read th...I can't remember how many times I just read this - it took a while to sink in - very moving, and very poignant - grief has many faces - so sorry to hear you lost twin girls. XXX. Older Mumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02923339244117157344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-52656160898183325322012-10-16T10:42:15.224+02:002012-10-16T10:42:15.224+02:00I often think of what might have been but I honest...I often think of what might have been but I honestly think things turned out in a way that was good. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-4194000122438688502012-10-16T10:31:19.127+02:002012-10-16T10:31:19.127+02:00One can suffer over what might have been as well a...One can suffer over what might have been as well as what was. This is a beautifully written account of the bafflement of pain and I'm horrified to learn you lost twin girls. Adventures of a Middle-aged Matronhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11225267175732836348noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-22542225011011743982012-10-16T08:57:52.811+02:002012-10-16T08:57:52.811+02:00You put it perfectly. I think this is one of the m...You put it perfectly. I think this is one of the major poionts, as well as to acknowledge what happened and remember the babies. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-19190760909765295342012-10-16T08:36:19.926+02:002012-10-16T08:36:19.926+02:00My mother had a miscarriage when I was young, and ...My mother had a miscarriage when I was young, and even though she had the two of us already, she suffered deeply. I was too young to understand or help. I'm glad you wrote about this. The dialogue is important so women who've gone through this don't feel so alone.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-34090891646438499432012-10-16T07:06:12.780+02:002012-10-16T07:06:12.780+02:00Thanks Jazzy. In the end I brought home exactly th...Thanks Jazzy. In the end I brought home exactly the baby I wanted. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-6409654642551102812012-10-16T07:05:22.151+02:002012-10-16T07:05:22.151+02:00That's exactly how I felt. And you wonder how ...That's exactly how I felt. And you wonder how come you never knew that so many women had been through this before. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-85752574864454741672012-10-16T04:34:38.689+02:002012-10-16T04:34:38.689+02:00Yes Rachel I did hear many stories. It was comfor...Yes Rachel I did hear many stories. It was comforting to hear other women had been through the same experience and to know they went on to have healthy full term babies. I also think if you have had a miscarriage before going onto full term that is extra hard because you don't know that you will be successful.<br />GillyGilly Cannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393339396656670745noreply@blogger.com