tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post8916334075739526733..comments2024-01-15T12:17:49.418+02:00Comments on Midlife Singlemum: An Only ChildRachel Selbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-30467500497297049632014-11-15T15:15:53.879+02:002014-11-15T15:15:53.879+02:00I don't see any problem with being an only chi...I don't see any problem with being an only child personally. I grew up with a brother and I'm sure I often wished to be an only child at times! ;)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02759673270785000759noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-20733532737654961452014-11-13T22:54:11.993+02:002014-11-13T22:54:11.993+02:00my son is nearly three and i am very aware that he...my son is nearly three and i am very aware that he is an only child, and whilst i dont like the thought of going through some of those stages again, i also want to enjoy them as a baby which i didnt get a chance to do with my son!<br />Thanks for linking to #singleparentlinkySingle Parent Pessimisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00165278352379485764noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-60834408912621300912012-07-03T00:12:49.795+03:002012-07-03T00:12:49.795+03:00So many people say - How can you not give her a br...So many people say - How can you not give her a brother or sister? How sad that she'll be an only child. They don't stop to factor in all the other considerations that are specific to our family and our life. Ultimately I feel I have made the best decision for DD.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-24466119957874624972012-07-02T23:59:56.195+03:002012-07-02T23:59:56.195+03:00I hadn't seen this before, but it really hit a...I hadn't seen this before, but it really hit a chord with me. I have no more plans for more children for a very long list of mainly practical reasons. It does sadden me at times, especially when I see how loving and affectionate my little girl is: she'd be a wonderful big sister. But we as mothers/parents know our limits and I think it is very sensible, and ultimately the most loving thing to weigh it up as you say: why struggle and cope when you can enjoy?mousehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00573595683899488691noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-62703832104028340652012-04-26T02:33:35.017+03:002012-04-26T02:33:35.017+03:00thanks for letting me remember this line. x
Ethanks for letting me remember this line. x<br />EAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-11356419919682821952011-12-03T18:44:24.031+02:002011-12-03T18:44:24.031+02:00Those eggs and eggs from three more IVFs were used...Those eggs and eggs from three more IVFs were used up. I'll try and write the journey faster so you know what happened.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-11127736691001889842011-12-03T18:08:08.403+02:002011-12-03T18:08:08.403+02:00How come above you say "donated eggs"???...How come above you say "donated eggs"??? When you just said that they successfully got 16 out of 22 of yours?<br /><br />Trying to understand the process.<br /><br />You are awesome.<br /><br />Liska xNew Mum Onlinehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14285584922202683960noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-21864983375295781762011-04-28T09:01:08.407+03:002011-04-28T09:01:08.407+03:00Thanks Nicole - we used to have a prayer in school...Thanks Nicole - we used to have a prayer in school assembly in which one line was: Lord, help me to accept that which I cannot change. It's liberating when you finally can do it.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-10904467657490080682011-04-28T08:08:37.943+03:002011-04-28T08:08:37.943+03:00i can so identify with you. my DD is 3. i didn'...i can so identify with you. my DD is 3. i didn't have my DD with IVF, but I also decided that one was enough, and I didn't think I could manage physically or financially another one. it took me over a year to come to that and accept it (during which time I stored all her baby things - then after I decided i gave them all away and was at peace with my decision)Nicolenoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-89224887862709373592011-03-08T15:17:13.458+02:002011-03-08T15:17:13.458+02:00Thanks Trollmamma for your kind words.
JS - I kn...Thanks Trollmamma for your kind words. <br /><br />JS - I know - I also joke that I won't mind if DD gets married at 16 and has lots of children ;)Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-88734756692529204722011-03-08T15:13:08.313+02:002011-03-08T15:13:08.313+02:00I love your writing, and I completely understand a...I love your writing, and I completely understand and appreciate your reasoning. DD is a very lucky little girl.<br /><br />:-)Penguin-lovin' Trollmammanoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-23262293390558179352011-03-08T14:44:59.239+02:002011-03-08T14:44:59.239+02:00In my case, I like having an only child, but he...In my case, I like having an only child, but he'd better grow up to live near me and give me multiple grandkids--just kidding. Don't like the insensitive remarks that he needs a younger brother or sister though. Sigh, lo haser li klum, gam. (JS)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-69664441427798220932011-03-08T13:56:18.324+02:002011-03-08T13:56:18.324+02:00Thanks Twostarsandaswirl. I wrote the post today b...Thanks Twostarsandaswirl. I wrote the post today but it has been a long process (starting from straight after DD was born)to get my head around the only child situation. For a long time I wished it could have been different but I now just feel totally blessed with what (who) I have.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-57815051943135136502011-03-08T13:42:11.568+02:002011-03-08T13:42:11.568+02:00I have been round in circles for the last 2 years ...I have been round in circles for the last 2 years on this subject in my mind, at first after I became single with a 1yo I assumed I would meet someone new, have another child, open the front door to my cottage and look at the roses.<br /><br />But 2 years on, I have no made peace with myself and my hopes as they were, that it is very unlikely I will have another partner in the next few years, and 95% of the time I am fine with this. I could not do the pregnancy + toddler alone, I wasn't great for my last pregnancy and i physically couldn't cope alone. and when I really started thinking and removing the 'I want I want I want' part of having antoher child I stopped and realised that I am not really sure I do want to do that. Yes the biological clock/hormones poke me every now and again, but I can say happily my heart AND head are happy with having 1 child. <br />and as you say there are many opportunities for an only child to have wonderful relationships apart from siblings, we have cats ;)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com