tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post222038159080265690..comments2024-01-15T12:17:49.418+02:00Comments on Midlife Singlemum: But Is It Chutzpah?Rachel Selbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-7076484906835720492016-06-23T14:05:38.720+03:002016-06-23T14:05:38.720+03:00I've think you've hit the nail on the head...I've think you've hit the nail on the head Jacqueline. #prizecommentRachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-70403156858713991132016-06-22T21:58:39.090+03:002016-06-22T21:58:39.090+03:00That is awkward, but handy to have someone useful ...That is awkward, but handy to have someone useful like that, that you know is reliable for bigger jobs.Jacqueline Meldrumhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05748535381400208316noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-46430986174707994592016-06-22T09:33:34.995+03:002016-06-22T09:33:34.995+03:00Yes but he could legally ask me to pay 180 shekels...Yes but he could legally ask me to pay 180 shekels for 2 minutes of work as he has previously explained the terms to me. I wouldn't risk that. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-23342006573895864422016-06-22T02:30:40.955+03:002016-06-22T02:30:40.955+03:00You're right it's an ethical minefield, ho...You're right it's an ethical minefield, however as a business request that you are willing to pay for you've passed on the decision and say "so how much do I owe you" he has the right to then refuse payment as "it only took a minute" making him feel good and you not feel bad, which I find so much easier than when my Hubby does favours for family, friends and neighbours (and he does lots of favours) and always refuses any payment and then they inevitably buy him thank you beers but he rarely drinks at home lol! Of course if your professional neighbour charges you in full then you pay up and definitely don't ask again, because that's chutzpah ;-)MumB / @mumboshhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04028202984783421119noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-59085892490860953012016-06-21T23:20:00.634+03:002016-06-21T23:20:00.634+03:00I agree with you when it comes to paying someone f...I agree with you when it comes to paying someone for their services but I'd probably by too embarrassed to ask for payment if someone wanted a short(ish) explanation of English grammar. I actually do give loads away in referrals, recommendations, and information whereas there are people who never do anything for anyone without expecting a cut. I don't want to be like that but I also don't want to be taken for granted. Like I said it's a fine line. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-23139699894895311282016-06-21T22:40:34.441+03:002016-06-21T22:40:34.441+03:00I would always pay - either money or in kind hence...I would always pay - either money or in kind hence through what I do for a living - for any amount of work done by a professional (so what if it's 2 minutes - it still has a price (60 minutes in 1 hour etc) that can be calculated and added on a next time if it's too little to receive now/he refuses to take it). The way I see it is that if they do that for a living, then whenever they do it (and regardless how small the job is) it's a. work for them b. done better/faster than if done by someone else. In this particular case I'd basically count as neighbourly favour the fact that he would take on such a small job when it's needed and otherwise as usual work the actual screwdriver job. Same with you explaining English to someone - I don't think you should do it for free even if it takes you only 15 or only 20 minutes. <br /><br />This is of course just my opinion and I'm just a random voice from the Internet, might not count for much.DCnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-65120410960229095152016-06-21T18:33:34.537+03:002016-06-21T18:33:34.537+03:00Mostly I don't resent it at all. Which is why ...Mostly I don't resent it at all. Which is why I'm ok with asking for a similar small favour. It's just that this is asking him to do what he does for a living - even though it's 2 minutes of work. Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-5766602349860880642016-06-21T15:24:19.342+03:002016-06-21T15:24:19.342+03:00Oh dear, I would also do as asked and inwardly res...Oh dear, I would also do as asked and inwardly resent it - as when a woman with two items kept asking if she could skip the queue in Lidl today (I only had 8 items) - eventually I gave in not very graciously!Looking for Blue Skyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10010049814419812468noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-89247244099525944052016-06-21T14:27:08.570+03:002016-06-21T14:27:08.570+03:00That's the whole point. How can you ask a prof...That's the whole point. How can you ask a professional anything to borrow the tools of his trade so that you can do the job yourself? That would be chutzpah. And what if I broke it? Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-8185100054164239832016-06-21T14:19:53.896+03:002016-06-21T14:19:53.896+03:00You should have popped upstairs and asked to "...You should have popped upstairs and asked to "borrow" his electric screwdriver for 10 mins. that would have given him 3 options:<br />1 - say no - you are no worse off<br />2 - Lend it to you - you could have done the work yourself quickly, learned a new skill and avoid blisters!<br />3 - if he is a decent bloke, he would have popped down and done it for you in a couple of minutes.<br /><br />If you never ask, he'll never help - behave more like an Israeli!<br /><br />;)<br />rsteel123https://www.blogger.com/profile/01959785003050068709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-62298814970501633812016-06-21T13:58:12.759+03:002016-06-21T13:58:12.759+03:00That's not the point. There was no problem as ...That's not the point. There was no problem as I screwed the screws myself, albeit taking longer to do it. It's the principle.Rachel Selbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13113411205306116614noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-692517788030253147.post-54543951508531933782016-06-21T11:51:02.839+03:002016-06-21T11:51:02.839+03:00Ask a different neighbour - end of problemAsk a different neighbour - end of problemjanicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02064990087360509336noreply@blogger.com