A few months ago @kateab from The Five Fs blog started LifeCircle. I fully intended to join in and benefit from the group life coaching course, coming out the other end with all my dreams and ambitions well on the way to fulfillment. The first assignment was an overview of the different aspects of our lives, taken sepaerately and each given a score from one to ten. I balked. I didn't want to share the exact state of my finances and my romantic life with the world wide web. With the new year, Kate has restarted the LifeCircle and I still wanted to do it (btw, anyone can join, just follow the link). This time, with more understanding of what is to come, I thought about how I could make it work for me and still keep my (selected) privacy. This week we are asked to introduce ourselves.A wise person once told me that there are times in your life when you are ready to get up and do, move and shake, etc.. And there are times when you just have to be. As a single mother with a 3yo, I am in one of those 'needing to be' places. However, there are plenty of things I need to prepare, while I am being, so that when the time comes for me to 'get up and do' I will be ready.
Today met R in the street as I was walking home from the supermarket. I always admire how R gets dressed every day. Obviously I don't walk around in my pyjamas but pullng on a pair of trousers, a jumper and running a brush through my hair doesn't constitute 'getting dressed'. I complimented R and she admitted that it takes a lot of effort but that in her job (an estate agent) she has to. Well I have to too, if I am going to look and feel like the woman I want to be.
And all this grooming takes time - something that I can waste with professional aplomb. So I guess some anti-procrastination work is in order and finding the motivation to use the minutes productively.
In a book about being elegant and sophisiticated on a small budget the first directive was to be slim. As the book said (it was many years ago and I don't have a reference), it is much easier to look elegant in crisp jeans with a simple white shirt and some shiny accessories if you are slim. Overweight people have to pay a lot more money for a similar effect. There's a lot of truth in this. So, apart from all the health reasons (obviously), this is my third area of concentration.
In addition, I want to achieve small goals (some of them listed on my Day Zero list) towards being ready (as described in New Year's Eve) for the moving and shaking when the time comes. In particular I think it will be helpful to define precisely what I would ultimately like to do and where I would like to be so that I'm at least moving (or shaking) in a straight line towards it.
Happy New Year!
ReplyDeleteThis, esp the last paragraph, made me think of a really good book I read recently about time (I don't have time to write) It made me think about time in the bigger sense, I think nowadays we all want instant results and don't want the journey or the process. But the journey slows down when you have small kids. Just a little thing but it gave me lots of perspective to keep chipping away at things!
The AR, very interesting and so true. It's so easy to give up on attaining our goals just because the journey is necessarily longer when you're a mum. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteIt looks like you have a head start on this project because you've already picked out some areas that you want to work on and improve, which is positive in itself.
ReplyDeleteI'm also a single mum and like you, find time running away with me. So, becoming more organised is on my to-do list. I'll add other aims as we go along, but it's a start!
Looking forward to sharing the journey with you Cuba Cat. Thanks for commenting.
ReplyDeleteLots to focus on by the sounds of it. I also want to complete more task on my 101 in 1001 list and to be more organised.
ReplyDeleteIt is slightly easier for me as I am not single and am lucky with my helpful partner so if you can find organisation then so can I I think! :)
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ReplyDeleteOMG, you've given me a challenge - hopefully I won't let you down and you'll have no excuse for your own organisation issues.
ReplyDeleteYour post really made me smile as I can see a lot of me in it! I dream of being a vision of elegant sophistication, but am far from it, I'm doing well if my hair gets brushed before the school run!!
ReplyDeleteGetting a bit more organised I could do with.
ReplyDeleteCJ and Jenna - I see a theme emerging, this is going to be fun!
ReplyDeleteglad we are doing this together! like you I don't want to air all my linen on here ;-)
ReplyDeleteBecky - me too. I hope it will work without to much disclosure. We'll have to see.
ReplyDeleteHiya, wanting to be more organised with time is something I can relate to. As is looking after myself to try and look good, hopefully we'll all progress along the journey, good luck!
ReplyDeleteOhh good girl, sounds as if you are getting really motivated. I like the idea of the life circle thingy too but no way do I want to share some of that stuff on my blog!
ReplyDeleteGood luck beautiful lady.
Mich x
Thanks Mich, I just wrote the first assignement (saved in draft until Thursday)ans it wasn't hard to avoid areas of classified information. :)
ReplyDeleteYou're most welcome to join us. I in no way want to make anyone uncomfortable with LifeCircle and if people aren't happy sharing it, then I don't want them to. Hopefully, the exercises are designed so that you can get something from them without ever blogging them but the blog allows you to share what you want with your readers and gaining support from others.
ReplyDeleteThanks Kate, I'm lookiong forward to it.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you have lots of good goals there. Good luck!
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Thank you dbaskls, good luck to you too.
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