A few months ago @kateab from The Five Fs blog started LifeCircle. I fully intended to join in and benefit from the group life coaching course, coming out the other end with all my dreams and ambitions well on the way to fulfillment. The first assignment was an overview of the different aspects of our lives, taken sepaerately and each given a score from one to ten. I balked. I didn't want to share the exact state of my finances and my romantic life with the world wide web. With the new year, Kate has restarted the LifeCircle and I still wanted to do it (btw, anyone can join, just follow the link). This time, with more understanding of what is to come, I thought about how I could make it work for me and still keep my (selected) privacy. This week we are asked to introduce ourselves.
A wise person once told me that there are times in your life when you are ready to get up and do, move and shake, etc.. And there are times when you just have to be. As a single mother with a 3yo, I am in one of those 'needing to be' places. However, there are plenty of things I need to prepare, while I am being, so that when the time comes for me to 'get up and do' I will be ready.
Today met R in the street as I was walking home from the supermarket. I always admire how R gets dressed every day. Obviously I don't walk around in my pyjamas but pullng on a pair of trousers, a jumper and running a brush through my hair doesn't constitute 'getting dressed'. I complimented R and she admitted that it takes a lot of effort but that in her job (an estate agent) she has to. Well I have to too, if I am going to look and feel like the woman I want to be.
And all this grooming takes time - something that I can waste with professional aplomb. So I guess some anti-procrastination work is in order and finding the motivation to use the minutes productively.
In a book about being elegant and sophisiticated on a small budget the first directive was to be slim. As the book said (it was many years ago and I don't have a reference), it is much easier to look elegant in crisp jeans with a simple white shirt and some shiny accessories if you are slim. Overweight people have to pay a lot more money for a similar effect. There's a lot of truth in this. So, apart from all the health reasons (obviously), this is my third area of concentration.
In addition, I want to achieve small goals (some of them listed on my Day Zero list) towards being ready (as described in New Year's Eve) for the moving and shaking when the time comes. In particular I think it will be helpful to define precisely what I would ultimately like to do and where I would like to be so that I'm at least moving (or shaking) in a straight line towards it.